Joyce Lee Life Coaching Moment

Forget love… I’d rather fall in chocolate!  ~ Author Unknown

Good Morning,

What if:

•    trans fat was good for us
•    cheese cake had the same calories as celery
•    we needed to drink 8 glasses of wine a day (just kidding, hiccup)
•    the food guide recommended 6 – 8 servings of chocolate a day…
•    deep fried foods were heart healthy
•    all those chemicals in our food were essential

What if belly fat was a good thing?

Wouldn’t that be just grand?

Hee-hee-hee

Joyce

The only time to eat diet food is while you’re waiting for the steak to cook. ~ Julia Child

I never met a popular fad diet that did me any good in the long term.

I could fill a page with the dates and names of the fad diets I went on in hope of having the perfect body.  I’ve know many a ‘Diet Monday.’

In fact, I think the numerous ones I went on in my long dieting career actually helped mess with my head and contribute to a very unhealthy relationship with food.

I subjected myself to:

Shame:  stepping on the scale and being weighed by a woman with a clipboard
Insanity: actually thinking that I can eat cabbage soup every day for the rest of my life
Blind Hope: maybe having my food mailed to me will really work
Desperation: I have to look good for my high school class reunion, here’s my $2500.00, sign me up!

What I want to know is who invents the fad diet anyway?  Is there a demographic?

Now that I am older and wiser (I hope), I chuckle at the infomercials promoting the latest and greatest fad…  I prefer the turtle approach: slow and steady wins the race…

What do you think?

When we lose twenty pounds… we may be losing the twenty best pounds we have!  We may be losing the pounds that contain our genius, our humanity, our love and honesty.  ~Woody Allen

Good Morning,

I think the bathroom is a sanctuary, a place to be completely undressed and safe and warm.  A place to be alone with your real self.

Its where the transformation from private self to public self often begins.  It’s a golden time and place to do our affirmations.

Before you apply your makeup, and cover your self with layers of clothing, take a moment to look at your reflection and practice acceptance.

You are who you are today, and you are beautiful and you matter.
~ smile with understanding for the journey that brought you here
~ smile with knowing that you do your best in each moment
~ smile with hope that you can keep or change anything you want
~ smile with faith that the universe/creator/higher power/source energy of your understanding wants you to be happy, to be joyful
~ smile because you are a beautiful woman from the inside out
~ smile because you get to take great care of your self today
~ smile because you get to create a lovely day
~ smile because smiling feeeeeeeels good

If you want peace for the world, start with peace in you heart for the woman you see reflected in the mirror… from there your outer peace will radiate…

In truth and light

Joyce

“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept.  Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”
Velveteen Rabbit

As always, I invite your thoughts and feedback.

Today I ask to be guided in the most positive and self loving way. Please send me thoughts that empower me and keep my focus on my full potential.  Please make me aware when I am falling into old unhelpful thought patterns so that I may choose better feeling thoughts…

Please help me know in my heart that I can change any circumstance by putting my focus on potentiality and love and self-care.. Please help me know that I am beautiful and powerful just as I am and that by loving myself and being my own best cheerleader, I can be, do and have anything I want.

I ask to release any fear and doubt that I hold about my potential.  Help me open my heart and walk forward fearlessly.

Help me hold positive thoughts always.

Blessed be.

I had an incredibly frustrating afternoon/evening on Monday…

Some computer technology glitches cost me a whole day’s creative work and I spent hours and hours on the phone trying to sort it all out with satellite providers and other service providers…

I was put on hold for 40 mins at a time and had to stay there or lose my place in line… (don’t you just loooove that?)

I crawled around under my desk on my hands and knees with my toosh in the air time after time, disconnecting modems and routers and power sources… more waiting… listening to irritating elevator music…

I had to explain my problem to at least half a dozen different levels (tiers) of service technicians…

All that and no resolution… I had a mess to clean up and I was beyond frustrated…  An hour past my bedtime, I was actually reduced to tears at the prospect of starting all over again the next day…

Now… I have pretty good skills when it comes to maintaining my balance, finding my center and all that… but… wow!  I was soooo frustrated!  I wanted to throw something, to break something, to yell at someone, to yell at anyone… (of course I didn’t do any of these things…lol) but I sure felt like it…

I did my best to remain calm… (hard to do when elevator music is slaying Neil Diamonds ‘Sweet Caroline’, and I have to turn off my Lorenna McKennitt to pay attention…) yikes!

What frustrates you?

I would love to hear about it…

Joyce

Optimism is a great way to create a life. I have experienced life on both sides of this concept and I really have to say that I prefer my life as an optimist over the alternatives.

Here is a list of behaviors you may want to be mindful of:

1. Develop and nourish your personal spiritual relationship
2. Consistently affirm your intention to embrace your power, health, well-th and beauty
3. Be so strong inside that nothing can unbalance you or take you away from center
4. Be grateful, give thank, appreciate everything
5. Celebrate the success of others
6. Trust that you deserve a happy life, that happiness is your natural state
7. Have a mindfully cheerful face… smile a lot, laugh out loud, look for the humor
8. Surround your self with optimistic friends
9. Talk about what is right in your world, in the world
10. Practice talking about yourself in a positive manner
11. Intend to express the real you, the wonderful you

You know… I think I do all these things on a fairly consistent basis at this stage of my life.  Little by little, step by step…

What about you?

Good Morning…

When I facilitate a personal growth workshop, I often offer an opportunity for women to look at and assess their contentment on the various aspects of their lives.

I would like to share this powerful little exercise with you.

On a scale of 1 – 10, with 1 being totally dissatisfied and 10 being completely satisfied, assess your contentment with the way each of these areas of your life are going for you… how are you tending to them? Please note, there are no right or wrong answers…

1. My Finances
2. My Body Image
3. My Intimate Relationships
4. My Social Life
5. My Authentic Self Expression
6. My Spirituality
7. My Career
8. My Physical Health
9. My Emotional Health
10. My Sense of Community

In a perfect world, you have the potential to enjoy a rating of 10 on each of these aspects right?  If the score you gave yourself is less than desirable on any aspect, you can do something about it… in fact you are the only one who can.

Now…for a deeper awareness…  add up all the scores… this will give you an overall percentage out of a possible score of 100.  This is your general personal vibration set point… this is how you walk through life…this is how much of your potential you are using…

How do you feel about it?  Is it enough for you?  Do you want to make more out of your life experience?

Makes you think doesn’t it?

Please feel free to share your thoughts and comments… I love the feedback…

Brightest Blessings

Joyce

Your Empowerment Life Coach

I think every woman needs to be mindful of her Inner Little Girl.  We all have one… she is with us always… she shows up all over the place.

I hope you read the article I published in Notes To Self on Tuesday, September 29.  5 Things You Need To Know About Your Inner Little Girl

Where does you Inner Little Girl show up?

Mine shows up:

• In my creative times… she love to create
• When someone pushes my buttons… she wants to push back
• When my feelings are hurt… she is extremely sensitive
• Around animals… Ellie Mae Klampett at heart…
• Struggled with issues around Dad… needed to resolve and heal

After years and years of personal growth work, I am on wonderful terms with my Inner Little Girl.  I am mindful of her presence and encourage her expression where appropriate.  However,  my adult self handles my adult matters now…

What about you?  What have you discovered about your Inner Little Girl?

Please leave a comment for others to enjoy and benefit from…

Brightest blessings

Joyce  (all aspects of me)

I was looking at some family photos the other day and was struck by my physical resemblance to a grandmother I had never met.  A woman with the same strong face and body type.  It made me realize how much I physically take after my father’s side of the family while other siblings resemble my mother’s.

We are a living legacy to our ancestors.  Our Aunt Elizabeth’s dimple, Great Grandmas thick curly hair,  Nana’s strong hands, Mom’s beautiful eyes and easy laughter…

One of my daydreams involves walking past a field in Eastern Europe a few hundred years ago, seeing a woman bent over harvesting something, calling her name and when she looks up… seeing my own face.  I am the sum of the women  who walked before me… the face I see in the mirror is a reflection of the woman who are/were my mothers…

I am proud to stand as the woman I am… the woman of my line…

Look at yourself in the mirror and see your lineage.  Who do you see?  When I look at you and get to know you… who are the women behind you?